I’m crying after reading How to Get Over Betrayal by Family.
My whole life I tried to be the good daughter but the harder I tried the more my family beat up on me. I was the scapegoat.
Every single success I had was met with name calling or criticism or beatings.
Even as an adult, I was treated differently from my siblings.
There was one point in my life where my sister betrayed me and my children then I found out through my father, so matter of factly, that he and my mother were also behind it.
One could say I was conspired against. The worst part about this was I was just on the crux of ‘making it’ it a very competitive industry. They sabotaged me so badly that I was in financial ruin and couldn’t attend a huge presentation for one of my projects. I missed something so special to me. I had been working on it for years. But that wasn’t the end of it.
Even from afar they would call people up and tell them what a rotten mother I was.
My mother died recently and nobody bothered to tell me. Not that I shed a tear since I can’t imagine my worst enemy doing what she did to me throughout my childhood. But again, my siblings probably raided the house. She died without ever saying she was sorry or was proud of me or loved me.
This happens to a lot with people. And since we still go by ‘honour your parents’, people don’t talk about the abuse and betrayal at the hands of their own family.
This leads to self-blame and a continuation of attracting saboteurs.
I told my doctor, I get better treatment from strangers than my own family. Knowing my history, she said she wasn’t surprised.
In my case, I will probably never see any of my family again. Which, logically, I know is the right thing for me, but I still need to give up and truly mourn the dream of ever having a loving father and siblings.