I Tried to Be Good but Was Betrayed by My Own Family

I’m crying after reading How to Get Over Betrayal by Family.

My whole life I tried to be the good daughter but the harder I tried the more my family beat up on me. I was the scapegoat.

Every single success I had was met with name calling or criticism or beatings.

Even as an adult, I was treated differently from my siblings.

There was one point in my life where my sister betrayed me and my children then I found out through my father, so matter of factly, that he and my mother were also behind it.

One could say I was conspired against. The worst part about this was I was just on the crux of ‘making it’ it a very competitive industry. They sabotaged me so badly that I was in financial ruin and couldn’t attend a huge presentation for one of my projects. I missed something so special to me. I had been working on it for years. But that wasn’t the end of it.

Even from afar they would call people up and tell them what a rotten mother I was.

My mother died recently and nobody bothered to tell me. Not that I shed a tear since I can’t imagine my worst enemy doing what she did to me throughout my childhood. But again, my siblings probably raided the house. She died without ever saying she was sorry or was proud of me or loved me.

This happens to a lot with people. And since we still go by ‘honour your parents’, people don’t talk about the abuse and betrayal at the hands of their own family.

This leads to self-blame and a continuation of attracting saboteurs.

I told my doctor, I get better treatment from strangers than my own family. Knowing my history, she said she wasn’t surprised.

In my case, I will probably never see any of my family again. Which, logically, I know is the right thing for me, but I still need to give up and truly mourn the dream of ever having a loving father and siblings.

~MK

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    This made me cry. My mother, brother, sister, nieces, cousins, grandmother, aunt, and in laws all betrayed me. It’s like the conspired to cause me the worst heartbreak of my life. I don’t want to go into detail but I just can’t get over it, I’m angry, I’m hurt, I want to fight, curse them out. I have feelings of hatred and unforgiveness. I just don’t know how to heal, how to stop hurting or being angry. Some of them are non/factors I dislike what they did so I just want to fight them and move on. But the betrayal from my sister, one of my nieces, my mom, and brother is what hurts, what keeps me up at night. I don’t know what to do? I’m just thinking that in the New Year I have to completely stop communicating with my mother and niece because they uphold everyone’s wrongdoing. I already don’t communicate with my sister and brother, it hurts because I love the deeply but no one cares! My heart is utterly broken.

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