When you’ve been betrayed, you need to stop the active negative vibration of that relationship. Every second that you are allowing yourself to marinate in the vibration of betrayal you die a little bit.
I’m not kidding, family betrayal is more serious than a heart attack.
Every moment that passes and you are in that vibration, your immunity system is compromised.
The longer you stew in it, your biological system rots away. You lose sleep. You are more susceptible to disease and decay. And if you let it go long enough, you can get Cancer. Let it go long enough, and you will die.
So, the first order of business is to get yourself toa place of safety and security.
Remove yourself from the vicinity of the family member who has betrayed you.
If for whatever reason you are unable to isolate yourself from the perpetrator, then you can create a safe place within your physical environment. Stay in your room if you have one, and if you don’t have a room, you can pull a Viktor Frankl and create a safe place in your mind.
Frankel was a Nazi war-crime medical guinea pig, who was tortured by Nazi scientists as they conducted despicable experiments on his body, but he was not going give them the satisfaction of destroying him, so he made a safe place to go to in his mind.
He vowed that while they may be able to torture his body, he was not going to let them have him, who he really was, and he protected his mind, heart, and soul by creating a safe place, a refuge of solitude that he would go to in his mind.
If you’re interested in finding out more about Viktor Frankl, you can check out his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, if you dare. It is brutal, enlightening, and if you’re feeling like you’ve got it bad, believe me, it could be worse.
Okay, let’s say you’ve created a safe environment for yourself, what do you do next?
Then begins the process. The process of dealing with the emotional trauma of the family betrayal.
You must be willing to create your own identity, separate from the family member, whoever it is.
Who is the family member who is most likely to stab you in the back?
You might be surprised to discover that your mother is the most likely the family member who will betray your trust, followed by your spouse, then both parents?
What? Is that crazy?
If you can’t trust your mom, who can you trust?
The Top 7 Family Members Who Will Betray You
- Spouse (3x male)
- Mother and Father
- Children (3x male)
- Sibling (3x female)
- Extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc.)
Interestingly, male spouses and children are 3-times more likely to stab you in the back, while female siblings are 3-times more likely to betray their siblings.
Now that we know which family members are betraying you, what can you do about it?
Cut Them Loose
& Let Them Go
Cutting a family member loose is not as easy as it sounds because the bond goes very deep. It’s as if you are connected by a very strong cord, and you are.
The invisible cord that emotionally binds you to your family members is not unlike an umbilical cord. It is an energetic cord which you share that energy passes back and forth between the two of you. When negative energy is transmitted by your family, you feel it.
And when they desire to drain your energy for themselves, you feel the life force as it drains from you. When a family member sucks the life out of you, this is not unlike an energy vampire.
If you don’t do something to cut the cord, he or she will continue to drain you of your resources until there is nothing left of you.