I did too much for my son he had no father in his life I felt guilty so I indulged gave into his demands and soon realized nothing I could do for him was ever enough he left school early blamed it on me even though he left after I got his all his stuff uniform etc he left school and later on in life when his brother was doing well got a well payed job he got jealous he blames me even though he joyride the principle car
He was never going to be able to go back to school after that and his jealousy of his brother got worse as he thought by marrying an older woman who had a car and nice house
He was young and dumb only now does he realize that what he thought was the easy way out to get what he wanted with out having to work for it but he didn’t as his wife is a control freak and she always has to have her own way
He is emasculated in his own home. No wonder he made attempts to end his life but is it just to get attention as he made one before, took vitamins. He doesn’t seem to realize that she can use this against him if in time the age gaps getting worse.
He started trying to get back into her good books by treating his mother bad as she’s only 10 years older than her. They wouldn’t let her get in pictures with them for her daughters debs even though they invited her over just to upset her. She pretended it didn’t bother her, put up a nice post and tried to not let them upset her but they stepped up again this time when she told them straight up that she thinks her family, who are much larger, could actually help out more as she’s done minding the autistic child in her home.
Even for them, they are considering part-time resident care but in the meantime he pretend to to have a crisis or maybe he was and as they never let her see her other grandchild it isn’t in her interest for her to let them use her home.
He pulled down curtain rail broke blinds damaged numerous stuff in her home laptop etc and they never paid her back for it. Took it out on her when they didn’t follow the instructions on medication and blamed her when she went on holiday to blackpool.
She tried to ring hospital but they wouldn’t let her have permission to get information on how he was. They wouldn’t take the birthday present that was a water fountain. He loves playing with water as autistic kids can be and denied him it just to spite me, and for a whole year she watched the toy out the back and anger set in. She threw the toy into their garden. It was returned the next morning but she felt better for it as she took their abuse and bad treatment for so long since 2013.
She invented her daughter in law for dinner didn’t eat it, was never not once invited on holiday with them or Christmas.
It’s now 2018 they come over the day before Christmas eve take the stuff, be lucky to see a glimpse of them, and no Christmas day visit.
She offered to take kids to pantomime. They said they were bringing kids never offering for her to go. He comes over with him unannounced and expects us to drop everything for them. I be busy doing things in my house, they leave as house is not to his standards, even though his child has wrecked it. Never tidies it up, just leaves kids have gadgets, barely noticed me. I’m on my device too.
I want to spend quality time with them not always on their terms. I want to take her after school, do things with as they have her very spoiled. I don’t want to make the same mistakes with her I did with him. He got everything, more than my other sons. He abandoned his younger brother who is now not well. He’s not involved as he has his autistic child to deal with but it’s her. We both don’t feel welcome in their home. They only come over when there is something in it for them.
He’s selfish. He and his wife only care about them and I’m done. Sometimes you just have to let go of people who don’t care about you. They never helped me out when his brother was in hospital. They didn’t collect us and said get public transportation, even though he had a Zimmer frame as he was only after getting an operation and stitches. Had to beg nurse for taxi fare after getting sandwiches for him and I rang them before that and they said they were but after a no show I rang again. They could not.
After all I spent it on food. She felt sorry as I couldn’t believe that they would be so heartless but I never asked them for anything after that, even though I did still help them out.
I was starting to feel a mug but kept hoping they would change their selfish ways but they didn’t. They cut me out, got my daughter to take over the grandkids, and I felt a double betrayed as they turned her against me as well.
I’m done with them all. After they used me to mind her when she was in hospital but as soon as she’s available they want to use my home, no use their own, and he had the cheek to say I don’t do anything for the grandkids. I did more than her family but I think they want her family’s attention by getting them to mind the grandkids. It’s not going to work, as they haven’t in 7 years, so I hope my daughter cops on like I did.
Eventually, when the get respite or residential, if they do, they lose money. So I don’t think they will.
His wife is money hungry. She’s just going mad that I finally have it good as his brother is actually helping me out for once. The other two-legged it when they got in relationships, never handing up money to their mother.